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A Respone to Sudareth Kumar's post on Euthanasia

It is so hard to find someone that I agree with on euthanasia. I believe that people have the right to determine their lives. This includes their death.

You know what just kills me (no pun intended) about people that use religous excuses for why their against euthanasia. Their contradictory. If someone wants an abortion...they say "Abortion is against God's will. That child is supposed to be born and it is a sin to interfere with God." If someone wants to stop life support for a loved one that has stated that that's what they want, religious crazies say "You do not deserve the right to decide life or death." The problem is that keeping people on life support IS interfering with God's will. If God intended for that person to survive on their own, he/she would have. Taking medication or getting chemotherapy interferes with God's will. I believe in life support, chemotherapy, medicine, whatever. For the person that wants it.

I had read a case in my ethics class about a man that got in an accident and was set on fire and it gave him severe burns in which he was about to die, if it wasnt for life support and a severely painful procedure that he had to go through daily. He begged them to let him die. Begged. And no one let him. I think that denying someone the right to die (especially in peace and respectfully) is one of the most inhumane things in the world.

Her original post.

Infidelity

So, this week I have decided to talk about infidelity. I would like to talk about WHY it is wrong. And it is pretty simple. When you cheat on someone, it is more than just the act that is wrong. It is the lying that usually accompanies it as well. People who cheat on their lovers/partners/wives/husbands/boyfriends/girlfriends/etc are the most selfish people in the world. What cheating is essentially saying is...I want to be able to have sex with another person even though I have made a commitment to a different person. Instead of telling them I would like to end my commitment, I would rather have the best of both worlds. I want to be able to have an emotional/sexual relationship that includes societal acceptance and I also want to be able to participate in another relationship with someone else. What is important is MY needs and MY desires and what I want.

No, I do not believe that people should stay in unhappy relationships. That would be a horrible thing. I want people to be rigorously honest with themselves and have the ability to NOT be a coward and admit they either want out of the relationship or at least have a conversation about having an open relationship. I just don't understand. And if we are going to talk about some excuses men give...I have to be ready to vomit. Because they are quite ridiculous. I keep hearing that men believe that they can't settle down with just one woman and that they need variety and whatever other excuse that includes saying "Because I am a man, I have to cheat." That is total bullshit.

Women and are men are socialized differently. It's called gender and gender roles/stereotypes. Because society has placed this sexual savage/uncontrollable kinds of crap of an identity on men....men tend to embrace it rather than refute it because it agrees with their selfish greedy needs. (We are generalizing here, not all men of course. But definitely society's reinforcement!) Let's say, for a moment, that it was true that men just have the desire to have sex with tons of different women (Oh and this is also assuming women don't want to have tons of sex with different men. Which would be false. It's usually society's standards on women that keep them from exploring their sexuality. Anyways. That's another post) and that they just cant "help it"...Okay. That's fine. But their is something called NOT GETTING INTO A MONOGAMOUS RELATIONSHIP. There is also this concept called...SELF-CONTROL. This is where the selfish part comes in again. Because you love your partner and make a commitment to not have any other sexual relationships with other people...THAT is what you should do. It's called sacrifice. Male sexuality is NOT uncontrollable. If you submit to your selfish sexual desires do that and call it selfishness...don't call it male sexuality.

And this goes the same for women. I used a very common male excuse but that doesn't mean I condone any kind of the same behavior coming from women. A commitment is just that. If you want an open relationship, get one. Sexual indiscretions don't "just happen." There are usually doubts in relationships wayyyy before.

There are also many possible consequences to cheating. And the possibility of giving your partner an STD. Let's say it all together! "SELFISH"

Feministing article that tells you just ONE of the outcomes of having a selfish, careless, cheating partner.

Oh and by the way. I have never been cheated on. And if and when I do...I don't believe in second chances. Just a little fact about me.

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Lying, a form of self preservation.
Summersun Blog by Karen Owen.
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I think that this is totally true. I like to think that I never lie and that I would never want people to lie to me. But I think it's important to keep certain things about yourself private before you start to talk about them. I don't even know if it is necessarily lying. Sometimes you have to lie to protect yourself from harsh judgement...that's what Karen Owen said and I totally agree. I never thought about it that way. If someone asked me something personal and I lied about it because I didnt trust them...that is totally protection. I do disagree that we have to tell children "white lies."


Maturbation
I Wish Philosophy Was Pink by Ruth Sheppard
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I think that people need to totally get over it. All the gigglin in the class was a bit much...although I am a contagious giggler...when someone else does it, I just have to join in. lol. But I do think masturbation is something that people need to be more comfortable with. I think that the reason a lot of people didn't anwser the last question because if you don't masturbate, then you don't use a tool and I dont think their was an option for N/A. Maybe the professor was trying to trip some people up. haha.

Master...minding to take over the World.

Lol. That is what me and my friends call masturbation. When one of my friends goes home early from a get together, we all ask...Are you going home to mmasssttteerrr...mind to take over the world? lol. Freakin cracks me up.

Anyways. Masturbation is human and is natural. I hate that sexuality is socialized. People can't seem to have an understanding of sexuality being biological. I think it's religions fault. I think a lot of things are religions fault but that's another story.

Masturbation is also like the concept of sex. People who believe in abstinent only programs believe that it is when your taught about sex, that you begin to think about it and want to participate in it. It makes no sense. This idea that the reason why teenagers have sex is because they are taught about it is ridiculous. Don't get me wrong. We live in a hypersexualized society and no one can argue that. But if you put two people in a room from birth...they would eventually figure out what to do. Because humans are equipped with sexual needs. It's just the way humans were made.

So I am sure that if you put someone in a room from birth, all by their lonesome...they would eventually masturbate. I mean, maybe not masturbate until orgasm but they would figure out that genitals feel good to rub. It's like saying that if you don't teach people how to scratch an itch they'll never figure out what to do. That's bullshit and is the most stupid thing I have ever heard. Period.

I think that we need to become a little bit more open about masturbation. And I also think people should stop assuming that women don't masturbate. I have a friend that masturbates like crazy. She says she always goes to sleep right afterwards because it knocks her out...now THATS Master...bating to take over the world. I am telling you. lol.

But no, really. I am so sick of society taking women's sexuality away. Women always have to deal with double standards concerning sex. Women are either sluts or their prunes because they don't have sex enough. And of course, women have no sexual desires other than the desire to please men. They would never want to please themselves in an isolated situation. It's ridiculous to think that! As a feminist I feel that women are constantly having to battle for their sexuality. Women's sexuality is usually based off the needs of men. It's just a lil thing we have in society. The thought that a women is there for men's pleasure and that women don't enjoy sex. Women are prudes. They don't really like orgasms and clitoris's are mythical. Really. Makes no sense. So it's not surprising that our society generally believes that women don't masturbate.

I couldn't even find a picture about masturbation that was feminine and NOT porn. But I totally settled for the funny ass one above. haha.

I think people need to give up on trying to stop people from masturbating. It's just ridiculous. It's sexuality. Sexuality is not evil. Here is an article about a church that is trying to make people ex-masturbaters. LOL. Cracks me up.
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